I tried tailscale first but to be honest wasn’t a fan. I moved to Twingate and found it much simpler to set up

Personally I use twingate, free for 5 users and relatively straightforward to set up.

It’s also great for taking crayon drawings off walls.

Have children to learn hacks ;)

If you’re a voyager user avoid piefed as it’s not yet supported, although apparently on the roadmap.

If you’re in the UK you can’t use lemmy.zip due to the bs OSA.

Aside from that just check the the instance you’re moving to federates with the communities you subscribe to.