• ameancow@lemmy.world
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      It really betrays a porn addiction when you compartmentalize people and couples by the races involved. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re some kind of nazi (but it IS 4-chan so there’s a strong chance) but there’s a huge amount of racism in society that’s just objectification and fetishization.

      It’s okay to appreciate particular races or features or particular aesthetics in a partner, it’s not okay to get hung up on it or fixate on it or get lost in some kind of porn-fantasy for what kind of relationships you look for. It’s weird how hard it is for people to find balance and nuance on this topic.

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        21 hours ago

        It really betrays a porn addiction when you compartmentalize people and couples by the races involved.

        Someone’s never been to the southern U.S.

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            18 hours ago

            If you aren’t saying “mixed race = porn”, then I actually don’t know what you’re talking about.

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              Then you really, really need to work on your reading comprehension. Not being internet snarky here, if you legitimately got that message I feel like you didn’t read my comment at all, or you’re deliberately choosing to misinterpret something that most people would understand.

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        I think it might be generational at lot of the time. At least in the UK. It wouldn’t occur to me to use the term, or even to notice most of the time. An uncle said to me once “it’s not for me, but I don’t see a problem with it”. That shocked me because the starting point of that train of thought is so outside my frame of reference.

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      2 days ago

      This reminds me of a time I had people over when my roommates, who happened to be 2 very attractive girls, went out and just secomds after they left, a guy said “How come you get to live with 2 extremely hot girls?!” and I was like “Because I don’t say shit like that”. Wanna know the best part? His girlfriend was there.