Hey.

I don’t know where to go from here and I don’t even know where to go.

I have a wife, she is amazing. We both made a horrible decision two years ago. Atleast I think it was a horrible decision, she personally has no problem and is totally fine.

We bought a cheap property next to a church. We lived around the corner in an older apartment that had no insulation and it was “okay”. So I thought to myself sure, new house has new insulation and should be fine.

Wrong. Now I am in debt, live in a garbage new house with church bells annoying me every single friggin day I am at a point the only thing that could save me in this situation is a huge war and someone bombing my house as excuse to move away.

I can’t leave this crap with 500k debt. No one is going to buy this shit.hole either. I am so unhappy and can’t believe I agreed to buying this cra.p property.

I am thankful for every minute I can stay at work to avoid the bells, I sometimes take extra shifts. I also sometimes don’t come up but drive to our local park and stay there til late afternoon.

I only come home to sleep. And even at night the church bells go on and on, I use facemask that has music playing so I am atleast able to sleep a few hours at night.

If I could undo one thing in my life is not buy this property.

I hate my life now.

I wish I could just grab my wife and move to somewhere else but we are doomed to stay here til we die. I earn enough money and my wife and I got in a arguement recently. I told her it would be possible to rent a second home so I can stay a week there and a week here and so on. She didn’t agree with this idea, and yeah it’s not the best idea. But I would only have to stay in this house two weeks every month with a second rental home. It only has to have a bedroom. I can shower at this place.

I googled all kind of weird stuff. Like accident fires, accident flooding damage etc. but this is so risky I can’t even do it. The best thing that could happen at this point is a war, some nation bombing this house or a natural desaster wiping it away. And with that being said it’s so sad because many people don’t have homes and would be thankful. But understand, these church bells are so loud and annoying. I talked with the church priest and he can’t do anything for us.

Just look at the wildfires in california. So many people lost everything and they’d be grateful for this cra.p I have to live in. I should be thankful but I can’t be cause those bells are getting on my nervs I can’t think clearly anymore.

  • HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com
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    1 month ago

    Boy there is a lot of negative stuff with your wife. If youcan’t leave this crap with 500k debt then she can’t leave this crap with 500k debt. She might just be making the best of it, but even if she loves it you plainly stated there is no way out. So whats with thats last sentence. Are you the damsel in distress that your wife needs to save. I know how church bells work and on most days it does it on the hour. Go enjoy your garden from five after the hour till five till then take a break with your headphones and watch something or play a game for ten minutes. You have agency and you can work around this. Its unclear if you added good insulation as you said with your positive thoughts at buying but if you have not then do that as you can. Think about a floating floor on second floor with added insulation and then carpet if you can. Find the quietest room in the house and put up tapestries or just take one room and put up acoustic deading tiles. It will look ugly but if should create a refuge. The fact is you youself state you and your wife are stuck financially so the only way forward will be adaption and mitigation.