semi- Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
You’re expected to “explain” yourself somehow and I learned the words and phrases about heteronormativity and cisgender(ness?) before anything else. I do wonder what labels I would have taken if non-binary were a term I was taught alongside (and with the same "matter of fact"ness as) masculine/feminine, boy/girl, male/female though.