• krashmo@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Being a victim of any sort of abuse does not remove your free will. I know it makes you feel like you’re being understanding by justifying whatever choices they make but that only sounds nice on a surface level. You’re dehumanizing these people by saying they have no control over their own lives and reducing them to side characters in someone more powerful’s story. That’s not empathy or nuance or whatever else you want to call it. It’s enabling abusive people by perpetuating the idea that victims of abuse aren’t strong enough to oppose them. I doubt these people would appreciate you remembering their lives in such a reductive and impotent way.

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      9 months ago

      That is certainly a naive oversimplification of the concept of free will.

      It’s funny that you think you can assume how abuse victims would feel, considering it’s quite obvious that you either 1.) haven’t bothered to educated yourself about the psychology of abuse on even a basic level, or 2.) you did, but just decided you know better than the mental health professionals who have spent years studying the topic.

      Either way… it’s clear that continuing this particular discussion with you is a waste of time, at least for now.

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        9 months ago

        My assumptions are fine but yours are wrong.

        That’s all you managed to communicate just now. It’s impressive that you can be so smug without saying anything besides alluding to some vague “psychology of abuse”.

        If you’re not getting into specifics that kind of comment doesn’t make you sound well read it makes you sound like the “do your own research” antivaxxers discussed elsewhere in the thread. I’m not sure why you’d bother with a low effort retort like that. You’re certainly not required to participate in the discussion any further but don’t delude yourself into thinking you’re dropping some knowledge bomb on the uneducated by bowing out in such a fashion. It’s lazy and overdone.