Turning. 28 soon and I feel like for the past year or two men haven’t liked me at all.
Like legit no one even notices I exist, men have zero desire in speaking to me. They never hold the door for me anymore, they never let me go in front of them if I only have 1 item and they have 20 in line, they’ve never gotten up to let me sit on the subway, even if I was in visible discomfort.
I don’t know if it’s because I moved to eastern Europe or I’ve just become significantly uglier enough to where I just don’t matter anymore to anyone.
I meet men at work sometimes or in person and they’ve never asked me out, never asked for my number, never been friendly to me. I feel so hideous because it didn’t use to be this way
If a guy does “show interest” it’s to lead me on and have me as a back up and blow hot and cold, mostly cold the whole time and then ghost me
Agreed, and it wasn’t that type of situation, it was as I’ve described, they were trying to “teach me a lesson,” as it were.
To be clear, I don’t push decisions on my peers every time, there simply are times when I have no preference. Plus, like… I was at theirs, we were chatting, I didn’t feel the need to change the activity, they, instead, tried to force me to do so, after patiently explaining to them that I was fine with things as they were. After which the yelling started.
There’s a difference between being easy-going and being a damp towel…
Edit: plus, in all honesty, what you’re describing sounds more like a dynamic mismatch, in which case the best direction (imho) is reevaluating and adjusting expectations accordingly. People can be however they want to be, and it’s up to us to decide whether or not we want to accept and continue interactions.