• sunflowercowboy@feddit.org
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    7 hours ago

    You can become friends with regulars and then ask them out if you desire, but you also involve more of yourself at risk in the question.

    Compliment people, be normal, do it without further engagement. That is the issue, men tend not to speak up unless interested so you are easy to read. Women like surprises, it’s not shooting your shot if they already saw your gun.

    Learn to appreciate the beauty of all before thinking of capturing one. You will have to communicate with them. Compliment something unique, something deliberately done, and something genuinely appreciated. By them or by you.

    Just speak up truely.

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        5 hours ago

        I am being heavy handed with my wording for the sake of metaphor.

        You as a person need to tame another in order to cohabit the same space, while at the same time taming yourself. You will sacrifice for them and they you. You hope to give them tenfold what they have you, in hopes they know how loved and cherished they are. You must communicate, lose, and evolve in order to win a together that is more fruitful.

        It is the same as loving your mother, if not - I am sorry she did not capture your heart. That is not a slight on you, just a sad reality that can exist and I am fortunate in this regard. My siblings were not.

        I speak of love, not men or women. It is a concept beyond gender and most humans.