unlike music, which people can simply not engage in describing on a regular basis, gender expression is something that requires much more active participation by all members of a society

Does it though?

I really don’t care how people express as long as they aren’t dicks and fascists about it.

I might be caught off guard sometimes, like the legitimately cute trans with the very male surfer dude voice at the train station the other day, but that’s not the same as giving a damn about it.