Or narcissistic behavior like some people have said?

From my friend Jaiden that I posted about, just curious.

  • happybadger [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    8·
    7 days ago

    That sounds deeply pathological and I wouldn’t want to associate with this person. It’s worded in such a self-aggrandizing kind of way that I wouldn’t even say this ironically. A normal person at most wants to be respected in their community for things they do for the people around them. This person wants gifts for being the most specialist baby.

      • happybadger [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        5·
        7 days ago

        If you do decide to keep the friendship, just never let it become what you can do for them. The narcissists I’ve known don’t understand reciprocity. They’re a level above the people they interact with. You can work around that to force a co-equal relationship but that has to be much more intentional than it would be normally. Whatever enthusiasm you show for their self-actualisation, they should be showing for yours.

        • Aurora@lemmy.mlOP
          4·
          7 days ago

          They can care to an extent, like “Oh my God, I’m so sorry!” but really just go back to how great they want to be. They believe people who call it unrealistic are “abusing them”, and don’t really care much when I say they’re already better because im not famous or well-known.

          She also always calls herself kind, wants to be feared by Christ and God, etc.

  • Mohaim@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    7 days ago

    Sounds like a child or someone extremely immature that has uncritically absorbed idealistic, unrealistic, and counter-productive mass cultural ideals (meaning, created by the ultra-rich owners of media/advertising corporations to manipulate the masses for their own ends) without thinking about the necessary sacrifices to achieve those goals, or the negative consequences that would occur as a result of achieving those goals, or whether any of those goals would actually lead to fulfillment and happiness.

      • Mohaim@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        7 days ago

        Sounds like my ex. Terrified to show vulnerability, since it was always horribly punished by the abuser, so they endlessly deflect blame onto others. And it’s not just a tactic, but an all-encompassing delusion that cannot be reasoned with and they don’t even see. And unfortunately, healing begins with being vulnerable, accepting responsibility, and trusting in others that want to help you.

        (Not responsibility for why they are that way, but responsibility for how their actions hurt others and taking responsibility for healing, since no one else can do it for them.)

    • Aurora@lemmy.mlOP
      3·
      7 days ago

      She’s 24, my age. She has apparently suffered extreme abuse for years and is locked up in her house, IDK.

      • Mohaim@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        7 days ago

        Oh :(

        I unfortunately had an abused partner and they had narcissistic behaviors that were either ways to survive the abuse, or learned directly from their abuser, mirroring and reproducing the very behavior that damaged them so badly.

      • Mohaim@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        7 days ago

        My other guess would be she’s a narcissist exhibiting narcissistic behavior and thinks everyone else will think more highly of her if she says she values those things.

        All of those ideals embody the most selfish, toxic, and self-defeating ideas that we all carry to some degree as a result of this capitalist, consumerist culture we exist within. To see someone claim to believe every single one so unconditionally is wild to me.

        I see nothing in there about friendship, love, or community, or finding satisfaction in struggle, or good health, or humility, or responsibility, or charity.