Hi, I have been a lurker for a while here. I have never gotten well with people. Most of the time I overstep our boundaries or the person I am getting along with just ends up taking advantage of me. This has been a problem running in my family for atleast 3 generations and now, quite frankly, I am tired of it.
My issue is that differentiating between healthy and unhealthy relationships is just too hard and using “rules” to figure it out is just too ambiguious. For example, joking about a person can be either a bonding experience in friendship or just plain bullying. Telling where the line switches between the two is a bit too hard.
So, what I am saying is, can someone please give me some resources for how to interact with people. Not just pamphlets or articles but rather full on courses on how to talk, how to handle/read body language, what people mean by what they say, how to recognize when someone is taking advantage of you. Things that go in depth about this sort of stuff.
Everything related to relationships, society and speech. This can be courses, books, reasearch papers, someone’s hobby project, wiki, etc. Articles that go in depth about it are fine as well. Thanks in advance.
You can’t apply computers to humans and expect good results. Period. Human made text is not easily parametrizable; much less someone’s manner of speaking or bodily expressions.
And human relationships as a whole, where at least two beings fundamentally incomprehensible to the machine interact, within a larger societal context that is equally incomprehensible? Acting like you can fit it into a neat model is peak computer science hubris.
And, in the end, it would only reinforce the preexisting notions of what is “healthy” or how others are feeling. I’m not sure that it applies to autistics as well as it does to neurotypicals. And I’m not certain if it applies to them either.