• Mandredge@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      1·
      17 hours ago

      Two! Finally made it official this year, after twenty years with one (my first girlfriend), and the other having been with us for thirteen.

  • Mandredge@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    2 days ago

    CNC. I do plenty of BDSM, but as the male aggressor, I still find CNC an embarassing kink to have. I am not sure if my partners would be into explicit resistance play; I am sure they would indulge me, but I don’t think I would want to set up such a scene unless it was with a sub who was unequivocally into it too.

    Also, the thought of impregnating a woman is very erotic. As someone with zero desire to be a parent, I am staying well away from that.

  • freeusething@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    9·
    6 days ago

    Getting fucked strapped down to a guillotine (with a line of guys especially) or with a gun to my head.

    Snuff is really difficult for people to understand. I like being alive, but the idea that a guy could treat me as completely disposable is exhilarating. I’m fairly extreme on the masochism/submissive side of things, the challenge is always finding guys who are safe with those extreme kinks.

    I’ve got a regular I had a really great time with recently - put a belt around my neck before he walked in, let him talk about how far he could go (while not actually pulling hard - breath play is always dangerous…)

    Being passed around at a party and thrown into a dumpster afterwords is another of those “probably impossible” fantasies.

    • PrettyFlyForAPornGuy@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      3·
      5 days ago

      I’ve heard of setups where a guillotine has been constructed with a bar across the bottom behind where the neck would go so that when the moment is right, i assume when one or both of you are cumming, your partner can pull the lever and you get a nice satisfying thud as the blade hits the bottom.

      Danger in general is sexy time spice, my gf is VERY into hard choking. We’ve had to tone it down a bit as we’ve become more experienced with it though

      • freeusething@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        4·
        5 days ago

        I talked to a guy online once about a similar set up - I’m honestly considering taking a furniture making class to make my dreams come true there. Or convincing one of my regulars to make one for me.

        Hard choking is something I’ve done - I got scared when my ex choked someone else unconscious on accident and almost killed them, so I’m a little reluctant to go for it now. It does feel so amazing though - the only time I’ve ever came from penetration was being strangled and beat on a fucking machine. I know that I would totally let a guy off me in the moment because it’s like nothing else 😅

        • PrettyFlyForAPornGuy@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
          2·
          5 days ago

          If you know someone in woodworking then go for it. just make sure you test it thoroughly before you stick your head in it.

          I choked her unconscious accidentally once during sex while she was on top of me, let go the second she went limp and she came around momentarily. We both agreed it was deeply hot but would be a bad idea to do again. It’s a shame there’s no real safe way of doing it.

  • TankiePornLover69@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    6·
    5 days ago

    I’ve always wanted to be blindfolded and sort of “passed around” at a party giving oral to women. Kind of like a freeuse thing

  • MojoMcJojo@lemmy.worldEnglish
    12·
    6 days ago

    Providing value to a community that I value. Either that or having enough money and time to be happy. That would really get me off.

  • MTK@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    5 days ago

    I know this is very vanilla (which I am not) but a threesome probably.

    I have plenty of kinks that I have tried because I talk to my partner openly and they are very supportive and open minded.

    But I only enjoy sex with people that I have a deep connection with and I am strictly monogamous (nothing against other options, just too mentally draining for me to love multiple people) so I can’t really see a situation where I would have two people I have a deep connection with that is sexual, or a partner and a friend I am willing to have sex with, since I don’t have many friends and I wouldn’t want to complicate things by adding sex.

    One possible option might be if my partner had a someone they really wanted to add and I would go with it, but I doubt I would enjoy it too much, probably just do it for my partner.

    • PrettyFlyForAPornGuy@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      2·
      5 days ago

      Maybe you should get a couples profile on fet. if you can build a friendship with someone or a group of people with a view to maybe eventually including them in your activities with your partner then you don’t run the risk of ruining an existing friendship.

  • sasoni75@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    3·
    5 days ago

    Basement slave, where I’m chained in a basement and be whipped, spanked, slapped and lightly beated etc.

  • evil_mal@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    3·
    5 days ago

    Have a bunch of sexual slaves at my disposal. Have used it as inspiration and as fantasy many times, but I think in real life I would have a hard time being dominant. Also in our relationship we are both quite dominant and neither would ever be the sub, so that won’t be doable even in the sense of just one slave, let alone a few.

      • evil_mal@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        Yeah, I’ve considered the idea of looking for a sub for both of us, but it has never really been a priority and my partner is quite vanilla all things considered, but at least we agree that if it would ever happen it would be a woman as she is at least sexually bi.

        While I consider myself more on the dom side, I’ve never experienced much on it so it feels daunting to have someone trust you that way but also depend on you. It is a mental barrier that would block me I’m afraid if I tried it. And as you put it, also a lot of work. For the moment, I’m OK leaving it as fantasy, not all fantasies need to be achieved :)

        • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
          3·
          5 days ago

          I’m straight and subbing for a couple is the only way I’d enjoy lady-sex, maybe you really should try it, it would be fun I bet. Also you don’t need to be bi to enjoy domming a man together. Especially someone who might enjoy humiliation.

            • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
              2·
              5 days ago

              I very much respond more to guy doms. Would enjoy a couple sort of ganging up on me though, and can’t be the only straight lady who feels like that. So either one I think, just be a toy to use for awhile, right? I don’t have to enjoy all of it sexually to enjoy the whole experience.

              I think they should try it, that it would probably be more fun & less work than they think. Really, you can always do stuff like watch a movie together and make her serve, not let her on the couch, right? It doesn’t have to be a just a marathon sex thing. Treat her like a pet or toy.

              • Keepthoseeyeslockedonmine@kinkycats.org
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                5 days ago

                @RBWellsV23 it absolutely doesn’t have to be all overtly sexual. Underlying servitude and humiliation, being a toy, is always sexuality: if they own you then they also own your sex and just the implicit understanding that they could choose to use you sexually as they please is enough to charge the atmosphere and the dynamic.

                You could just be their footstool, you could be exposed, you could be subject to impromptu wetness checks, you could just be their house girl. The effect is the same

    • freeusething@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      6·
      6 days ago

      I did it for a while. It felt very good at the time, but it quickly escalated into something dangerous and abusive. Some of the most exciting and erotic experiences of my life - being a footstool, sleeping in a dog cage, wearing a permanently locked collar, having a contract, being on the verge of orgasm from just being made to mop floors and follow rules - but tied to an absolutely brutal “drop” when the whole thing was abruptly ended. Realizing that the person I served had always deeply hated me and was actually exploiting me was a hella of a mind fuck.

      It still deeply appeals to me, but the fallout when it ended was very difficult. Going from a few years of that mind state rapidly back to “normal” life was extraordinarily difficult, and there wasn’t really a “script” for getting my life back on track afterwards.

        • PrettyFlyForAPornGuy@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
          31·
          6 days ago

          service can be as simple as running someone a bath, cooking a dinner, massaging a back.

          you don’t have don a gimp suit with an inverted strapon to “serve” someone you love

          • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
            4·
            6 days ago

            Yes, I’m actually serviced oriented as a sub so I’m well aware. I have a partner who is vanilla and not dominant in the slightest. It’s not exactly possible to be in a committed relationship and “serve” someone else full time.

            • Lightor@lemmy.worldEnglish
              3·
              6 days ago

              I’m dom and my wife is switch. I think the best way is to have sessions or days set aside for it. Lifestyle dom/sub can be hot but like most things you gotta give it breaks to keep it fresh. Just gives room to try other things.

  • RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    5·
    7 days ago

    Getting a bj from something that would actually love to eat me (Cannibalism is an ick, I obviously won’t touch animals, and there’s no aliens/monster people irl. Though I might accept a BJ of that nature from some very weird person anyway)