• frickineh@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    I wish this was just an old stereotype (and for many men, it is) but you wouldn’t believe how many men still come in my office with their family and their wives do all the paperwork and try to wrangle the kids while the dad plays on his phone and ignores them. I do see a lot more actively engaged dads but it’s by no means universal, unfortunately.

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      7 months ago

      My wife does the doctor work. Because I did the shopping, cooking, and dishwashing. You are just making judgments based on nearly zero information.

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        7 months ago

        I don’t think they’re making judgments about every single dad, they’re just saying that the stereotype of many fathers not interacting much with their kids holds true for more fathers than one might expect.

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          7 months ago

          Soounds like validating a stereo type based off of 15 minutes of limited observation to me.

      • frickineh@lemmy.world
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        7 months ago

        They’re here to apply for a passport so both parents generally have to be here, and I really don’t think I’m asking too much for men to interact with their kids for 15 minutes if they’re not going to help with any of the paperwork. At least pay enough attention to keep them from running around getting into people’s stuff.

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        7 months ago

        And that is great. Do you think everybody else also has a household as comfortable with this kind of division labor?

        I also noticed you didn’t say anything about who raises kids. That’s fine but it’s what this whole discussion is about ultimately. Caregivers are typically women by a large margin.