It’s perfectly fine to be a “feminine” man. Young men do not need a vision of “positive masculinity.” They need what everyone else needs: to be a good person who has a satisfying, meaningful life.
I feel that this toxic shit we’re seeing on the right is the hyper performance of masculinity. Like men who question their masculinity must perform it in an in your face ostentatious manner. Its very important that you SEE them being a man.
Real masculinity is the operating system. Its underneath, understated, and effortless. Like of course im masculine, how could I be anything else, I was born this way. I dont need to perform it for others to make it real and most importantly I dont think about it. Its happening in the background while Im living my life. Identifying strongly with it would feel like identifying strongly with having a spleen. Like sure I have a spleen but I dont really think about it and certainly dont make it my entire fucking personality.
I feel that this toxic shit we’re seeing on the right is the hyper performance of masculinity. Like men who question their masculinity must perform it in an in your face ostentatious manner. Its very important that you SEE them being a man.
Real masculinity is the operating system. Its underneath, understated, and effortless. Like of course im masculine, how could I be anything else, I was born this way. I dont need to perform it for others to make it real and most importantly I dont think about it. Its happening in the background while Im living my life. Identifying strongly with it would feel like identifying strongly with having a spleen. Like sure I have a spleen but I dont really think about it and certainly dont make it my entire fucking personality.