Exactly. Not only does it take a lot of energy, but getting it wrong and reading subtext where there is none causes unpleasant and confusing situations. Missing subtext, at worst, causes mild frustration.
Maybe some people do this, but I get a malingering vibe from this perspective. I think it’s more likely that people are just about “If you get what I mean, we can connect and feel closer”. And if you don’t wanna connect with them, that’s fine!
Another thing that adds to the fun: the meaning of words to different people.
A more extreme example is a story I vaguely remember where one person thought of “it tastes good” as somewhat negative, while the other actually meant “really good”/quite positive. Or something along those lines
When in doubt, or fed up, I just go hard on “no subtext”.
There is a limit to how much I allow people to demand I decode their words for things they are not willing to say out loud.
Tbh a really good lesson I learned was not to look into subtext too hard, you’ll often over analyze and come to the wrong conclusion.
Exactly. Not only does it take a lot of energy, but getting it wrong and reading subtext where there is none causes unpleasant and confusing situations. Missing subtext, at worst, causes mild frustration.
Maybe some people do this, but I get a malingering vibe from this perspective. I think it’s more likely that people are just about “If you get what I mean, we can connect and feel closer”. And if you don’t wanna connect with them, that’s fine!
Yeah, probably closer to my intent. To me, “demanding” isn’t a heavy and loaded word implying evil intent.
Another thing that adds to the fun: the meaning of words to different people.
A more extreme example is a story I vaguely remember where one person thought of “it tastes good” as somewhat negative, while the other actually meant “really good”/quite positive. Or something along those lines