It seemed to me like they perceived that some people to be outraged by people who change their mind and were advocating that all decisions should be safe.

To transition and then change one’s mind about it was an unspeakable, disgusting fate, almost no matter whom you asked. That didn’t exactly make gender exploration any easier. I contemplated transition for years but didn’t move forward, because I so deeply feared getting it wrong. And then once I started, I was terrified of how it might look for me to turn back.

That is not wanting people outraged, that is being afraid of outrage.