When I got sterilized, the doctor asked me if I was in a committed relationship. Told him I was. Then he said that I need to treat this as permanent. Told him it wasn’t a problem. He pushed a little more but inevitable told him that if things changed and I ended up with a woman who wanted children, adoption was an option. That ended it for me, and I was able to get the procedure done. I don’t know if this is typical for men, but that was my experience.
I got a vasectomy when I was 31 and have never looked back. Would highly recommend it if you’re committed to being child free. Was a simple discussion with my (male) GP and after a few questions to make sure I understood the implications and that I had thought it through he gave me the referral.
I really feel bad for women - they have so much more stigma and a harder time with this in general, even in progressive countries.
I’ll chime in too. My vasectomy was really straightforward. I didn’t need a referral, I directly scheduled a urologist appointment through my health network. One appointment to ask questions, he just made sure I should treat this as permanent and asked about my reasoning. I said I had thought it through and my brother had just had a kid and that was enough. Next appointment was the surgery and just an “are you sure?”
It’s so much easier as a man to be child free, aside from women hitting on me telling me what a great dad I’d be.
Yeah, maybe I would be. Don’t want it.
Have never pursued sterilization though, might’ve gotten a small amount of the judgment women get then. Maybe.
When I got sterilized, the doctor asked me if I was in a committed relationship. Told him I was. Then he said that I need to treat this as permanent. Told him it wasn’t a problem. He pushed a little more but inevitable told him that if things changed and I ended up with a woman who wanted children, adoption was an option. That ended it for me, and I was able to get the procedure done. I don’t know if this is typical for men, but that was my experience.
I got a vasectomy when I was 31 and have never looked back. Would highly recommend it if you’re committed to being child free. Was a simple discussion with my (male) GP and after a few questions to make sure I understood the implications and that I had thought it through he gave me the referral.
I really feel bad for women - they have so much more stigma and a harder time with this in general, even in progressive countries.
I’ll chime in too. My vasectomy was really straightforward. I didn’t need a referral, I directly scheduled a urologist appointment through my health network. One appointment to ask questions, he just made sure I should treat this as permanent and asked about my reasoning. I said I had thought it through and my brother had just had a kid and that was enough. Next appointment was the surgery and just an “are you sure?”
It’s been about a year and I feel so great now.