When you start your conversation with “you’re the problem”, you’re going to alienate the group you’re attempting to reach out to.

Valid. However, my vitriol stems primarily from having been a shit sack at one point. It’s painful to see many guys suffer through the same thing. Most of which, may not be as lucky as I was and actually clue in and want to change, or will struggle to change but be unable to due to lack of support or guidance.

Men have real problems that deserve to be noticed and recognized, and not all of them are a result of patriarchal culture

Again, on the nose, and while we must acknowledge and validate these issues, we absolutely must not let ourselves wallow or let these issues limit or define us.