I, for example, am very turned on by contrasts. So noticeable height differences, size differences (individual body parts or the whole package), skin tone, shapes, etc.

I kinda wish my wife (who’s very pale) were bi because I would love to see her have sex with a dark skinned woman that’s a similar height and weight as her, or a short, petite woman (she’s also tall for a woman).

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    Talent and passion. An otherwise-average woman who can, for example, play an instrument or write or dance beautifully sort of immediately becomes a 10/10 for me.

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    I love people who love things I do as well. A couple examples from recent memory: I love black metal and I was wearing a hoodie from an obscure band and this guy recognized the logo. We had a long talk about music and that was definitely a huge turn on. I also really love when people geek out about stuff, and I met a guy who’s a mechanical engineer and he was happy to talk about his job and all the things that go along with it.

    I guess I’m just describing having a personality.

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    I mean, your wife could do someone male to provide that contrast, even more contrast, right? It wouldn’t require her to be bi. I do also find contrast beautiful, like black hair and pale skin is so pretty and yes two different looking bodies entwined. I don’t like when guys are huge and women tiny, or vice versa, though. Have always dated guys around my height.

    I agree with both quiet non arrogant confidence, and competence, those are hot.

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    For me it’s having a very distinct feature of some sort. I don’t know why, but if she is very short or tall, or has a prosthetic limb or weirdly shaped boobs, or a nose like a racing yacht, it just really does something for me. Like otherwise I generally find most of the same features as many people do attractive, but add that standout trait and whoah, be still, my heart.

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    On the subject of contrasts: You show me four women and I’d pick the one who is apparently different, every time. Three blondes and a brunette? Three brunettes and a blonde? Three sundresses and shorts and t-shirt? I’ll pick “the ___ one” every time.

    Thunderstorms. I am not aroused by thunderstorms, but they’re great fucking weather. I don’t know if it’s because it’s cooler, if it’s the background noise, the lighting, but my ideal sex scenario has a summer afternoon thunderstorm going on outside.

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    A woman wearing a thin choker, like a lace choker or a thin choker with a small pendant.

    I’m not into BDSM, and I don’t link this with the meaning of being collared. I just like the esthetics of this kind of necklace.

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    Both me and my husband are basically, eyes face, and for me bum, for him, boobs.
    Nothing else for me I think, I like deep voices, but more so, I find high pitched and scratchy voices a turn off.

    But then him, being outwitted. He is stupidly smart, he has a PhD and 2 Masters, and finds someone outwitting him or outsmarting him actually a turn on. It’s weird. The odd times I do it, prove him wrong, he almost instantly jumps my bones, he can’t control himself.