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      You can be a sub without being weak and dependent, that’s just a slightly different stereotype

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          You can be taken care of without choosing to be less able and less independent, there is nothing positive about having less autonomy and nothing about being a sub that requires it

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            there is nothing positive about having less autonomy and nothing about being a sub that requires it

            correct, fetishes aren’t often rational, there is no logical reason for this person to want to be a helpless little goblin other than it turns them on

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              There are plenty of things that turn people on that are objectively harmful and/or counterproductive and should be discouraged, in the grand scheme of things this isn’t one of the worst but that doesn’t make it good, some urges absolutely should be suppressed or at least redirected

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                There are plenty of things that turn people on that are objectively harmful and/or counterproductive and should be discouraged

                Not the parameters of the discussion at all

                some urges absolutely should be suppressed or at least redirected

                Sure, but extremely vanilla “uwu I want big man to help me” is nowhere close to that threshold.

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                  Being helpless and dependent isn’t a good thing, doesn’t matter how vanilla you feel it is