I go with my gf to her grandmas lake house every year, and while its relaxing and fun, I absolutely notice a change in her demeanor, I find I have to walk on eggshells around her and every other thing I say or do seems to be wrong and warrants nagging. I have confronted her about this but she seems to deny any change in behaviour is happening and just retorts with “well I told you xxx!”
Obviously her family is stressing her out but it kills me that she won’t acknowledge that, especially since I’m such a straightforward person who likes to discuss what’s going on. And that shes such a family girl on top of that. I’m planning on marrying her but i m just not sure how to discuss this particular point of contention with her first, because it’s one of the few things she’ll get actually defensive about
Update, so we talked, she admitted she had been acting rather tersely, apparently she and her whole family is because her grandma seems to be getting more and more delusional each year and its putting strain on everyone, I told her I understand I just wanted some transparency.
She took it pretty well but to be expected there was some mopiness after the fact because she felt so bad, after cheering her up with daily dose of internet videos in the tent were back and ready to face things again
Thanks for the update, OP.