I’ve only used tinder before and the dude I met there ghosted me after he and his partner broke up. My husband has been encouraging me to look again and I’m feeling a bit better about myself lately so I’m debating checking something out and seeing who might be interested. I’m a post op trans woman for reference.
From your description of both you and him having spouses, I’d suppose, Feeld would not be the worst to try.
Having said that: they’re all crap. I don’t know that it was ever any better (at least for people desiring to meet with female presenting matches). I’ve tried a fair number of apps, and some have the features, others have the demographic, and none have both. That’s my experience.