What are the things you maybe encountered or are generally common that turn you off a lot?

Can share my story as an example. I’m very much a committed monogamous guy, and, for second relationships in a row (fourth total), the girl offers me a condom from an open pack.

They do not use them for their stuff, they literally just kept them for like a year from previous relationships (to which both girls admitted), which is not only a questionable approach to storing condoms (please do not store them in an open box in a random place), but also a giant turn off, almost like using sex toys from previous partner.

What are such things in your life? Maybe something that is generally accepted as normal, but makes you uncomfortable? Would love to hear stories from all sides.

  • FellatioHornblower@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    4 months ago

    This feels like some weird purity test or something. Sometimes am unexpeted hook up happens and it’s better to have a condom ready than have unprotected sex with a stranger. You aren’t complaining about having sex in the same bed as her previous partners, so why would unused condoms be any different?

    • Pollux@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      4 months ago

      That’s my point - those are not “unexpected hook-ups” (I never feel comfortable with those), those are events in a relationship they could absolutely prepare for, and something that normally comes with a greater level of intimacy.

      Changing a bed is unreasonably costly, materially and financially, besides, bed is not necessarily associated with sex.

      Getting new condoms is a matter of spending beer money at a nearest pharmacy.

      • Scallionsandeggs@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        3 months ago

        Considering you went straight to cost, the vibe I’m getting from this is you’d be happier if they did replace the bed. Along with everything else.

        I don’t know how old you are (you sound on the younger side), but I can tell you this is something that will get worse as you get older, not better. I’m someone that used to have a jealousy/insecurity streak with my partners and I worked on it. Something to consider.

        • Pollux@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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          3 months ago

          I said already I don’t have insecurity about past partners or retroactive jealousy. It’s just gross to me.

      • Kuragi2@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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        3 months ago

        So if she had been out of a relationship for, say, a year, and had bought a box at the start of the time, used half of them on different partners, and then used one with you it’d have been fine? At least from the condom perspective, never mind that she has casual sexual encounters and that’s never cool. Good luck on your gymnastics journey.