Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)

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    I was going to say it really depends on who is saying it. A creepy old friend of your uncle’s? Please No. A cute guy you are also interested in? Yes please.

    If you are not sure just say nothing. Silence is always a great option

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        “Alright, we have at least 6 witnesses willing to testify that they think I’m pretty. If you confess and say that at least I’m cute, we’ll let you get off easy.”

        “I wanna talk to my lawyer.”

        bad cop begins routine

        “HOW DARE YOU, THEIR OUTFIT ALONE IS FIRE!”

        ”good” cop pulls the bad cop off you

        “Sorry, my partner is a loose cannon. Look, we just want to make sure you’ve got good taste.”

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      Scientifically this has been proven again and again. Good looking saying something, getting something, doing something is acceptable. Unattractive has no access to the same things.

      I’ve pondered this a few times now I’m older. When younger the things I could say to women and get a positive response was amazing, compared to now I’m older. I was fit, good looking and cheeky.

      It’s just what it is. Attractive always wins. Be it income, access or acceptance (in your example).

      I’m OK with my age and not being as attractive as I was, but every now and then the cocky young man in me wants to complement a lady, but I move on. The moment passes. I’ve matured emotionally and happily carry on.

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        Oh don’t get me wrong, I’m the Ugly girl!! I also have no chance and ususally guys say “just die” on the internet. It’s not a man problem or a women biases, its a ugly ppl vs pretty people problem