followup to an old post of mine: https://lemm.ee/post/26206497
even though we both graduated, turns out i will be seeing him pretty often again. he’s going to the same church as i do (if i could, i wouldn’t go to church but idk how my parents would react to me telling them im not christian anymore, so i’ll just wait till i move out). so i’ll be seeing him every sunday and wednesday. he’s homophobic so i know i have no chance with him. i want to get over him but this will make it much harder. not to mention that i can definitely tell he’s been working out more and he’s got a really nice tan now… what can i do?
Oh man… When our crush gets even hotter… Ya, that is though. I know the feeling bro :((
Look into meditation. Learn to meditate properly, there are good books on that. Learn to acknowledge that things are impermanente and unsatisfactory. Try different ways of viewing experience and see which one decreases suffering. When you are feeling badly because of him, look into your thoughts and notice how they dissappear. Does that help? If not, try to widen your experience. Use your sensory doors, hearing, sight, taste, contact. Listen to the sounds and notice what you notice. Same for sight, etc. (Sorry for the rambling, I am into meditation, if that’s not obvious)
Other than that, just keep busy. Find a hobby. Be with your other friends. Make new friends. Join a gym, etc…