now, i don’t know if it’s such a big deal, i’m (a trans man) just getting it “off my chest” (that’s why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he’s been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he’s happy, he barely has any time for me because he’s playing video games. he didn’t even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i’d let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he’s bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that’s how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" “you’re so handsome” but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it’s kind of about his mental health struggles.

  • TachyonTele@piefed.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    This can be common with any couple. I’m going to fudge the terms probably, but heres a go at it.

    Sounds like you want him to be more attentive to you being there. That’s natural, and not a needy thing. He obviously likes you being there, those statements he says are good things. It’s possible he just might not know what else to say. That’s a not a bad thing, if thats the case, youll have to work a little too get him out of his shell.

    I was going to say a bunch more but the correct terms are completely escaping me right now i don’t want to say the wrong thing.

    Try more “together things” is the simplish suggestion. But really if sounds like he’s hibernating and needs to come out of the cave.

    But also video games aren’t bad. Theyre an excellent way to cope, and relax, get your brain going, etc what have you.