Hi!
I’m dating an amazing guy. He’s very sweet and caring. He’s kind of a quiet guy.
We started dating after a friend of his brought me a note he wanted to give me (but then threw away because he was indecisive) that said how much he loved me.
I took it and invited him over to my place. At first he was afraid to touch me and I took the initiative. Lately, he has become more active in this respect and is no longer afraid to just come up and hug me.
Everything would be very good, but I can’t understand one thing. Why does he always shake when we hug? I’ve asked him about it, but he keeps silent or blushes or says “I’m sorry”. I’m very worried about him and his health. Take him to doctor?
We’ve been together for 3 months. 2nd year of university. Same age.
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I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It sounds like he is very shy and inexperienced. It’s probably just excitement/nerves. You can ask if he likes hugging or if he’d prefer something else. If he says he likes it, I wouldn’t bring it up anymore.
that’s a very good advise
Very much this. As a person thats single for ever i also flinch when i get touched unexpectedly.
It sounds like he’s nervous when it comes to touch, or that it’s slightly overwhelming. If he’s blushing, that’s a good sign he’s enjoying it.
You two sound very young, like middle school or early high school. If that’s the case then don’t worry about it, it’s probably just excitement or nervousness. Just enjoy being young and in young love.
Its probably the human equivalent of purring.
This guy’s behavior seems quite like myself.
He’s probably been rejected a hundred times and the notion that “touching is just coming on too strong” has been drilled into his brain again and again. He’s not used to having a girlfriend actually loving him.
Hes fine and your making him a better person. He just is inexperienced. You have to realize that women can get experience almost anytime they want but not so with men and it may have changed but inexperienced women tend to go more with aggressive men (till they learn better). So its much harder for quiet, shy type guys to get the experience they need to be more forward. Its the same for quiet, shy girls but again they will not have a problem finding guys taking the initiative for them.
women can get experience anytime they want but not so with men…
What in the incel talking point hell are you on mate? Can we not generalize an entire gender and paint their sexuality and sexual proclivities with such a broad brush?
It’s certainly not true among all people, but there is a sizable group of guys who Just. Can’t. Get. A. Girlfriend. No. Matter. What. There are certainly some girls in this boat, but because most guys are really horny, this group is smaller as announcing you want intimacy as a girl is nearly guaranteed to get you messages from horny guys.
