You nailed it. My first girlfriend was black. My mom freaked out because she thought I was going to give her “mixed” grandbabies. I was 10. I’ve tried over the years, and I’ve seen improvement, but she’s 70 this year and I’m running out of effort. She’s going to die miserable and hateful and the world will be better when she’s gone.
I think it was around the time of the Lord of the Rings movies, and my grandma had a similar freak out when I mentioned my crush on Elijah Wood. She said, “I don’t want any black grandbabies!” She just assumed he was black and that her young grandchild somehow had any chance of making babies with a much older movie star. Joke’s on her though, I’m not giving her any grandbabies.
That’s rough fam, I’m sorry it’s like that for you.
I lost my mom a few years back, she wasn’t hateful, just an alcoholic… so I understand the sentiment. My life and my sister’s both got a lot easier in a lot of ways. Which ofc I still feel kinda guilty over.
Im Maori, wife white AF - gets sunburn walking infront of a bright TV level white. If anyone has a problem with our 3 “mixed” kids in front of her, let’s just say she will hold nothing back.
Mixed babies… Like who the fuck cares? God I hate it so much because it’s just DUMB. Like morally and ethically horrible too obviously but it just doesn’t logically make sense either. A stagnant gene pool isn’t helping anyone Mildred.
It’s that good ol’ southern baptist love, you know.
As a white cis male I’ve had it and will continue to have it much easier than a lot of other people, just by virtue of genetics. I don’t see it as something I’ve had to deal with, more something that has shown be how to be better than I could have been.
You nailed it. My first girlfriend was black. My mom freaked out because she thought I was going to give her “mixed” grandbabies. I was 10. I’ve tried over the years, and I’ve seen improvement, but she’s 70 this year and I’m running out of effort. She’s going to die miserable and hateful and the world will be better when she’s gone.
I think it was around the time of the Lord of the Rings movies, and my grandma had a similar freak out when I mentioned my crush on Elijah Wood. She said, “I don’t want any black grandbabies!” She just assumed he was black and that her young grandchild somehow had any chance of making babies with a much older movie star. Joke’s on her though, I’m not giving her any grandbabies.
That’s rough fam, I’m sorry it’s like that for you.
I lost my mom a few years back, she wasn’t hateful, just an alcoholic… so I understand the sentiment. My life and my sister’s both got a lot easier in a lot of ways. Which ofc I still feel kinda guilty over.
I dunno what I’m saying other than I sympathize 💜
I appreciate it it, but don’t sweat it. I moved 3000 miles away for a reason, and my life has been infinitely better since :)
Well that’s good to hear :) hope it keeps getting better for you, friend
Look, I respect she’s your mum but what the fuck.
Im Maori, wife white AF - gets sunburn walking infront of a bright TV level white. If anyone has a problem with our 3 “mixed” kids in front of her, let’s just say she will hold nothing back.
I appreciate the sentiment, but you don’t need to show her respect. Respect is earned, and she hasn’t.
Dont worry, respect was for you.
Mixed babies… Like who the fuck cares? God I hate it so much because it’s just DUMB. Like morally and ethically horrible too obviously but it just doesn’t logically make sense either. A stagnant gene pool isn’t helping anyone Mildred.
I’m sorry you had to deal with that
It’s that good ol’ southern baptist love, you know.
As a white cis male I’ve had it and will continue to have it much easier than a lot of other people, just by virtue of genetics. I don’t see it as something I’ve had to deal with, more something that has shown be how to be better than I could have been.