• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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      4 hours ago

      That’s just how social expectations are. I recommend you go ask a handful of single men you know (i.e. coworkers) whether they’d consider a 1:1 outing with a woman to be a “date.” I’m guessing most would say yes.

        • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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          2 hours ago

          Exactly, they’re coworkers where OP isn’t certain if they were flirting or just being friendly, and other coworkers confirm she’s flirting. To me that means:

          • they don’t have a good enough relationship to tell the difference, so probably not “friends”
          • other coworkers don’t seem to experience the same thing
          • claims to not have other friends (surely she’d mention a BF, no?)

          So to me, that sounds very much like she’s flirting, so it’s totally understandable for OP to consider it a date.

          • JackbyDev@programming.dev
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            56 minutes ago

            Facts:

            1. Anon intended for this to be a date.
            2. Anon never said this was a date.
            3. Anon never asked if she was single.