Men (yes I’m generalizing again) have this chauvinistic idea that if women talk to them or approach them it must have some sexual meaning, or be a prelude to something physical. I do that too with women - and I’m gay! I think we just grow up seeing women as objects for sex so, if they are nice to us, it must mean something more than just that they’re being nice to us.
I hear men say all the time that they can’t “just be friends” with a woman. Yet, I have close friends from high school (back in the 80s) that are women and that I hang out and it’s not a sexual thing at all. The trick to being someone’s friend is - you have to be a friend to them also, not someone hoping it will turn into a sexual fling. Women are great - extremely attractive, my first sexual trysts were all with women and I loved it, but I learned to differentiate between friends and one-night stands.
Just a few random thoughts - not saying that all men have the same exact experiences or feelings necessarily.
Men (yes I’m generalizing again) have this chauvinistic idea that if women talk to them or approach them it must have some sexual meaning, or be a prelude to something physical. I do that too with women - and I’m gay! I think we just grow up seeing women as objects for sex so, if they are nice to us, it must mean something more than just that they’re being nice to us.
I hear men say all the time that they can’t “just be friends” with a woman. Yet, I have close friends from high school (back in the 80s) that are women and that I hang out and it’s not a sexual thing at all. The trick to being someone’s friend is - you have to be a friend to them also, not someone hoping it will turn into a sexual fling. Women are great - extremely attractive, my first sexual trysts were all with women and I loved it, but I learned to differentiate between friends and one-night stands.
Just a few random thoughts - not saying that all men have the same exact experiences or feelings necessarily.