I appreciate that people have taken time to think what I would like and then acted on that, but it’s been a huge swing and a miss.

Out of the 7 presents, 5 were clothing items, 1 was something my wife wanted (not me), and the last was actually something I had been mentioning I had wanted for a while, so that was a silver lining.

When it comes to clothing and fashion, that is not me. I’d rather wear a £10 t-shirt from some high street chain, than whatever emperor’s new clothes rubbish is being pushed by the designer brands. On top of that, I have a young child, so it’s not uncommon for there to be food, spit, mess etc. on me at a given time. I don’t want to get that on my nice clothes, so I just wear old sports t-shirts most of the time.

Maybe they’re telling me I should change my style? But I’m happy with my style, I dress for comfort and practicality over looks. I don’t care what strangers on the street think of how I dress.

On top of that, 1 of the clothing items was smart, suit-like, work trousers… I’m in the office maybe once a week, and even then I normally wear smart casual attire, nice jeans, chinos, etc.

Then there’s the joint present my wife and I got. I appreciate it was expensive, but it’s something my wife has been raving about since she saw it, and I don’t really have any interest in it. At least she’ll be happy I suppose.

What I think disappoints me the most is I saw all the effort my wife and I were putting in for my family members, coming up with ideas based on their interests and things they may not think about, so I was excited for her presents for me expecting a similar level of thought, but it was just more clothes; some nice printed t-shirts, but I’m not going to wear them much, due to the aforementioned messy nature of having a young child.

I hope I managed to hide my disappointment. The only saving grace was the fact I was cooking Christmas dinner at the same time, so I could go out to the kitchen and “check on the veg” to compose myself and come back.

  • Psychodelic@lemmy.world
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    20 days ago

    Love languages are apparently a thing. Gift giving is apparently one of them. I’ve learned that communication is super important. If one person’s love language is giving gifts and the other is quality time, or words of affection or whatever, there’s going to be problems without proper communication.

    That said, I’ll echo what others are saying, albeit hopefully with a bit more compassion. Emotional maturity is absolutely a thing and not something most people learn at home and even less so out and about in our society/culture (assuming American/Western). Not sure how you best work on it, but you’ve got a starting point. Assess where you’re at in your journey and set a goal or just try and get 1-10% better at practicing being emotionally mature.