Just another redditfugee. Maybe I’ll infodump a little more about me later… depends on how things develop here.
Even though I am aware of sounding incredibly cliché and cringe: The more you try to force it, the less success you’ll have. Forget personality types. Forget ‘effort’. People seem to instinctlively know when you’re not having a good time or when you’re outside your comfort zone. So have a good time first, and look for a mate second.
(Also, I am aromantic, so my sack of advice is probably worth only the sack)
It was pretty bad a couple years ago. They learned.
Pet test. Success.
Shot in the dark, not a doctor yadda yadda
Sounds like it could be burnout. (not only workaholics can get one) You can try some mitigation strategies for that and see if they help you.
If 8 trilobites hang out together, would they make a trilobyte?