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Cake day: February 23rd, 2024

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  • There’s probably stuff that’s a lot worse in a vacuum, but tbh my dad giving me the talk about his own childhood trauma and the cycle of abuse. He concluded it by telling me to remind him of “the cycle” next time he’s raging.

    Even as a kid I knew that telling a large, angry man with a belt in his hand and daddy issues, “hey, you’re acting like your father” would just make the beatings harder.

    Second runner up is that apparently he convinced my brothers and sisters that I was the favorite and he never abused me like he did them. That meant they hated me and abused me too.

    Third runner up is probably the hoarding or the 24/7 black mold exposure or maybe the animal hoarding, or possibly when he assaulted a woman in front of me (although technically not something he did to me)


  • It’s so stupid, ain’t it? The logic is so broken when you think about it. So the south has oppressive laws. You think that’s bad, because people deserve better, right? Except then you hate people for being oppressed, so much that you want them to suffer further punishment.

    So you don’t actually hate oppression, right? So then why don’t you like the south?

    Liberals are some of the stupidest creatures alive. (I’m a leftist)


  • Appalachia is flooded and tons of people can’t get clean water or evacuate due to roads collapsing. Opened Tumblr, saw a smug liberal practically orgasming over “you Trump voters” getting what we deserve.

    I guess I’m fighting with my only friend again. I told him I explained something badly and he misunderstood it. He told me he’s too stupid to have serious conversations with. I reiterated that the communication failure was on my end, and he’s not stupid. He suddenly flipped the script and said I always make him feel stupid and that I think he’s lesser than me. Even though he was calling himself stupid and I was trying to reassure him? I attempted to comfort him and asked what I could do better, since I actually really admire him, but he hasn’t replied.

    It’s almost time to return my library book and I’ve barely touched it. I carry it everywhere with me, but we’re so busy I have to work through my breaks and I pretty much fall asleep when I get home. I guess it’s more of a hobby for well off people.

    Maybe next week will be remotely decent.




  • Alice@beehaw.orgto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRule
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    4 days ago

    It’s like a sweetened, fizzy sassafras drink. Pretty good depending where you get it.

    The USA has a weird thing where we use the words for alcoholic drinks to describe non-alcoholic ones. We also call spiced fruit drinks “cider” and actual cider “hard cider”. Not sure why.









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    7 days ago

    Just because you’re aro or aroace doesn’t mean you don’t understand heartache and loss. When we empathize with fictional characters, is it because we’ve been through exactly what they’ve been through? Doubtful, because then fantasy wouldn’t exist. But we’ve had similar emotions, so it resonates.

    I don’t really see why songs would be any different.


  • My mother’s policy was that the first time we do something wrong, talk with us, help us learn why it was wrong and how we should have acted. If we do it again even with that knowledge, punish us.

    I feel like that would apply here, too, even if you don’t see leaving them with the consequences as actively punishing them. But as a kid it’s easy to get in over your head before you learn your own limits, and you’re not born with the knowledge of how to bail yourself out. I think they deserve a grace period.