In fact, one systematic review found that the average prevalence of surgical regret was 14.4% among all research studies analyzed

Holy shit that’s actually crazy to me. [I actually tracked down that number because I was so curious] (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9) It’s over half cancer surgery. I’ve known that the regret rate for transition surgery was low for a long time, but that piece of context kinda blows my mind. You’re more likely to regret a variety of life saving procedures than gender affirming surgery, and it’s often by insane orders of magnitude.

This is fairly common in both depression and ADHD, so maybe check on them? Like, make sure they are personally okay. Someone who needs to be consistently stimulated is probably uncomfortable at rest. Being bored all the time is something I struggle with personally. I have ADHD and depression and trauma. Addressing and working on those things helps immensely with the chronic boredom. When I’m more depressed or anxious, I’m more easily bored and crave more stimulation. So, yeah, play Ted Lasso and check in on them.

the models and movie stars and idols and influencers

Most of them don’t actually “look like that.” They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot

Infochammel vibes

Interestingly, I almost never have this problem since getting my hormones right. Getting lost in (or attacked by!) sex less thoughts used to occasionally plague our bedroom. Now sex is so fucking enormous that it tends to eclipse everything. My body is louder and more talkative than it used to be.

I just want to gloat about my dispensary in here. We’re definitely where the cool queers get their weed. I’ve never been treated with anything but love and respect. The GM and AM both have significant personal connections to trans people in their lives. (The AM is my best friend, and I’ve seen her tense up at the notion that a random woman looked enough like her to be her sister, because she doesn’t have a sister, and she will fight about it <3) The weekend closing manager is me. We are the only dispensary in town with the “Transgender safe space” tag on Google. (There are several with the LGBTQ friendly tag.) It’s just all around a wonderful place to work and shop.

I work the way I do for me. As someone who is hyper focused on my job, I understand what you’re getting at. Before my recent promotion, I was doing way more work than my coworkers for the same pay because I was work obsessed. But it was what I wanted to do. I am excellent at a job that is genuinely important.

At this point I have wholeheartedly embraced it. I’ve been even more focused since my promotion. I will be the convenience store woman, but for my dispensary. It makes me happy.

Sometimes the act of writing it down makes an idea stick to me. I never read the notes for the reminder. But sometimes I write a thing down, then file it away as complete because the note means it’ll get done for sure! x_x

Did this work for you to begin with? This was always more of a nifty theory to me, like going to bed earlier to cure insomnia.

Oops no rights for anyone else. We overcorrected. Gotta back up some.

Idk maybe you could find a more fucked up picture with fewer pixels for us to study =P Seriously, Sky, this isn’t a meaningful image. This image allows you to fill in the blanks with whatever terrible emotions you’re feeling at the moment you look at it. It doesn’t serve you, and you should treat yourself better than this. You’re basically bullying yourself. You should get someone who cares about you to take and select some pictures to share. They have a more objective view of your body and appearance.

Anyone can take a bad picture. I can take a shitty, low res picture that makes me look awful. I often have to take and shuffle through several shots to get the good one. And I’m fucking hot =P

DO NOT ADD ANOTHER PERSON BECAUSE OF YOUR FAILING RELATIONSHIP

It’s insane to me that this apparently must be said by multiple people with massive emphasis. We only considered this because our relationship was and still is so strong. We just met really young and have a lot of love to give. I don’t want to lose my wife or have had only one great romance in my life. She didn’t want marrying a woman to mean she would never experience men again. So we share the incredible bounty of love in which we live.

As someone who was born into a terrible, broken household with no solid ground to stand on to speak of, this is always so wild to hear for me. Continuing as is was never an option. I knew the structures of my life were insufficient and untenable a decade or more before I started to understand myself as a woman. Sure, transition is scary and difficult, but not half as scary and difficult as how I grew up. I never doubted that I had to keep moving forward, to keep changing. I would have changed just as profoundly if I wasn’t a woman.

EDIT: This hasn’t happened in years, of course. These days, yeah, I look like a 34 year old woman >_>

Being on the right antidepressant is the opposite of sucking. It can be revaltory.

Do your shadow work and find the cause of your depression, then crush it with all your might and focus on the positive side of life.

This is kind of just a fancy way of saying “just think and feel better.” I can identify the cause of my depression: I was born full of whatever was in 80s cigarettes and then abused and neglected for 20 years. I need my supplements and medications to get me to a state that allows me to do the work. But no amount of work will undo the fact that I was born with next to zero capacity to produce melatonin or control dopamine. I can’t just put my mind to it and insert a bunch of essential formative experiences and life skills into my childhood. It’s taken me more than a decade of personal research, hard work, professional intervention, and medication to get to where I am today: only sometimes depressed.

If you’re dealing with mental health issues, don’t dismiss any treatment options. They’re out there being offered because someone is benefitting from them. You could too.

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Pre camping meal for people who are allergic to insect repellent. You’ll repel mosquitos for a week.