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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • It’s pretty simple really

    Detective: “Excuse me, I’m Detective so-so, recently we’ve come into some information that indicates something traumatic may have occurred in your past, are you ready to hear the details or would you like some time to prepare?”

    Person: “WHAT‽ I’m gonna need some time to prepare, I’ll contact you when I’m ready”

    This’ll give those vulnerable time to prepare for a shit storm and those who feel they’ve already adjusted and would rather not hear about it the opportunity to decline

    Your attitude is very much “You need to hear about it no matter what or how well adjusted you are. Oh, your brain was able to process the incident without causing any I’ll effect? WELL TOO BAD YOU NEED TO HEAR IT”

    Again, not every traumatic incident results in a mental ill effect like PTSD or depression. Some people have more resilient mental stability than others. What of them? What if the disclosure itself is just too much and now they NEED therapy when they could have gone their entire life without worry?





  • It’s a good point, if one truly doesn’t know and really is continuing on with life just fine then telling them would I’m effect cause trauma where there was none before

    One of the most prolific incidents of unknowing victims in recent years was the case of Reynhard Sinaga, who drugged and raped at least 48 men in Manchester between 2015 and 2017. Almost all the victims had no idea they had been raped until police officers knocked on the door years later.

    “It was a moral dilemma,” says Lisa Waters, the former child service manager at St Mary’s sexual assault referral centre, who worked with police on these visits. “You can’t just go in there, tell them what’s happened and drop the bombshell and walk away. You have an obligation to keep people safe.”

    Some victims were numb; others were furious. “Why have you told me this?” Waters recalls them asking. “I had no idea that this happened to me. You’ve ruined my life. So why have you told me?” But for other victims, the revelation was a relief.

    There’s no good answer on this, maybe some sort of initial generic question like “Something bad has happened to you in your past you maybe unaware of, would you like details?”

    It would still cause one to worry about that something has happened to them, but at least they would have time to figure out their own best way forward before being bombarded with details



  • Someone made a statement that they’d prefer to see development progress from Godot and not sociopolitical ideology.

    That’s what bigots say when things aren’t going their way, they are absolutely also the first ones to spread their own “sociopolitical ideology” (read: toxic bigotry) on unrelated things

    Also a lot of your comments here are eerily similar to the transphobic racists on Xitter that I personally saw when I found myself in one of their toxic AF echo chambers