You should check out “The Magicians”. I won’t spoil it (though I guess even recommending it in this thread kind of does) but it does NOT follow this trope. At least mostly…

Cats in the Cradle - Harry Chapin

I’m doing my best to not let my life be like the song, but that’s tough…

Yes. They’re called proxies. Some people are fine with it, some aren’t. It’s not legal in tournaments obviously but some communities/syles like CEDH are fine with it.