What platform are you trying to target? That makes a big difference in what kind of support is available. The more uncommon your hardware is, the more work you will have to put into building the distro. If I recall, Debian does provide some documentation on bootstrapping new hardware. You could try going that route. Yocto and the bitbake recipe syntax does have a learning curve in the beginning, but it is a really powerful build system, and probably would save you a lot of headache. Especially if you want to keep the image updated or extend the capabilities in the future. If you already have a cross compiler, bootloader, and a kernel for your target, you’re halfway there. Then all you need to do is figure out what applications you want for your distro. But if you’re going to have to build that all from scratch, Yocto will probably save you a bunch of time when you have to recompile and redeploy.
Correct. You want to look at removing or editing the getty.
https://tldp.org/LDP/sag/html/config-init.html