It is our most sacred code… what are the rules?

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    • if her skirt has accidentally ridden up in the back or is stuck in the waistband, you discreetly tell her

    • if a woman or girl comes up to you and acts like she knows you, you pretend to know her (unless you are certain it’s an actual misunderstanding and not her trying to escape a situation)

    • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.alOPM
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      Absolutely. The correct response is “Oh heeeyyyy! It’s so good to see you! Come and sit with us so we can catch up”

  • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.alOPM
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    If a woman needs a tampon, you give her that tampon! Doesn’t matter if she’s your nemesis, she’s in the middle of firing you or the world is on fire. She gets that tampon!

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      I used to carry tampons in my purse even though I was on continuous birth control (e.g., had no periods myself). I got asked for a tampon back when I was in college way more than I would have expected.

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    So many, here’s what I could gather on top of my head…

    If you think you know that a woman is trans, you don’t.

    If you see a woman getting yelled at or intimidated, you get your phone out and start recording subtly and ask her if she’s ok.

    If you see a woman walking alone at night, ask her if you can accompany her and maybe share a cab.

    If you see a woman leaving the bar alone, keep an eye out for someone following her.

    If your friend is going on a first date, share location with each other and plan safety checks

    If a woman you know has lost weight don’t compliment her about it unless she brings it up in a positive manner.

    If a woman you know has gained weight, don’t talk about it Also don’t ever ask a woman when the baby is due unless she specifically told you she’s pregnant.

    If a woman looks tired, unless its your closest friend and it’s unusual, don’t bring it up.

    If a woman has any wardrobe or makeup malfunction, tell her subtly.

    If a woman has a hard time and vents to you, don’t try to upstage her or say you understand because you lived something that you think is related but it’s not.

    Don’t make her feel bad for her sex life ever.

    Don’t bad talk your friend’s partners UNLESS you have serious suspicions they’re cheating on them.

    Give confidence boosts whenever you can to woman around you.

    • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.alOPM
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      These are brilliant mate. I especially like the trans and weight ones… women are so tied up in their weight, it’s just such a difficult area for us.

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    Compliment freely.

    Don’t pee on the seat.

    Give advice when asked for advice, not before.

    Stay aware of danger but don’t borrow trouble.

    And yeah - if you say you are a woman, you are a woman.

  • Alice@hilariouschaos.com
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    Call me pessimistic. But I just feel like most women back stab eachother for personal gain and are very petty. There’s a camaraderie amongst men that I just feel like women don’t have amongst each other

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      This is very interesting to read. I’ve seen the backstabbing, granted, but I don’t think it’s much rise than what guys can do. You’re perhaps just more overtly mean about it?

      As a fellow, I too look at the other gender as having a, maybe I wouldn’t have called it camaraderie but that’s a good word for it, amongst yourselves. It can be seen as cliché and annoying how, for teen girls, going to the ladies room seemingly always is a group activity … but really we guys are mostly just envious as we struggle a lot with stoic-ness and so that hullabaloo.