• grrgyle@slrpnk.net
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    18 hours ago

    Man that is a raw deal. I worry about my friend circle if my partner ever left me. I suck at making friends, so most of the people I know now are through her.

    My experience has been that being emotionally open tends to make people withdraw.

    Yeah, that sounds sadly typical for guys. I wonder where the cool emotionally available people all are?

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      I wonder where the cool emotionally available people all are?

      I met some when I was a member of The Satanic Temple. And then Lucien Greaves/Doug Mesner went full-on authoritarian, I bailed because I’d already escaped from one cult, and the people I knew stayed. Now I’m the out-group, rather than a friend, because group/social identity is harder to let go of than individual friendships. I met some when I was in art school; hopefully the world hasn’t beaten that tendency out of them yet.

      I suck at making friends

      I hear you. It’s hard to make plans with anyone now; no one seems to follow through. And without spending time with people, you can’t build those bonds of friendship.