• flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 day ago

    I appreciate your comment.

    I’ve actually talked to my fiance about things like this, because I noticed that I was ‘handling’ him, and I felt like it was demeaning to him. Luckily for me, he considered what I said and informed me that he likes that.

    Consent makes the difference!

    Probably helps that I’m used to disturbed and abused humans, too…

    • qarbone@lemmy.world
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      10 hours ago

      Yeah, that’s perfect! You asked and he said okay. You treated him like an adult and an equal and are now actively helping him, instead of deciding for him how he should grow/change.