What helped you make the decision to be child-free? How do I be sure about what I want? Looking for recommendation - resources, articles, books etc.

My partner just let me know he would be ready to start trying in a year. My head just spun. I am not ready now at 31 (as a woman and my clock is going tick-tock) and I don’t think I will ever be ready. I am neither excited about the process of birthing nor does a crying pooping tantrum-throwing machine excite me!

  • fuggadihere@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I don’t think any first time parent is ever going to be ready. If birthing is a fear you have, go for a c-section instead.

    Kids are also very different from one another. Tantrums are not commonplace, it depends how you approach your kid when it is sad, upset etc.

    PS: sorry for not linking you any articles. Choose whatever you feel works for you and your partner :)

    • Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de
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      1 year ago

      That’s terrible advice. A C-section is a major abdominal surgery, where you can’t do much after, and for weeks. (This includes a carry limit of less than baby plus car seat)

      Truly, if birthing is a problem, adopt. But if children are the problem, then maybe it’s not for you.