upon further thought i think this article would be better framed as a psa:
you should feel comfortable asking your long term committed partner their legal name (or being told/finding out organically), and it’s not toxic to do so.
there are plenty of reasons you might want to know such as:
filing a missing person report in an emergency
visiting your partner in the hospital in an emergency
bailing them from jail
add them as a beneficiary on insurance and things
seeking legal advice in case of a dispute (as noted in the article)
notifying authorities when you or others may be endangered by an abusive partner (as noted in the article)
all of this is a totally valid reason to know your partner on that level, and no, this doesn’t mean “trans people are above the law.” i do appreciate the struggle that brought Them to express it so, but i kind of hate that OOP framed it in such a fraught manner.
upon further thought i think this article would be better framed as a psa:
you should feel comfortable asking your long term committed partner their legal name (or being told/finding out organically), and it’s not toxic to do so.
there are plenty of reasons you might want to know such as:
all of this is a totally valid reason to know your partner on that level, and no, this doesn’t mean “trans people are above the law.” i do appreciate the struggle that brought Them to express it so, but i kind of hate that OOP framed it in such a fraught manner.