Sharing commonalities is fine. Sharing common experiences as they related to a mental diagnosis is fine. Saying “that ADHD feeling when you have a 3 PM appointment and check the clock 10 times to make sure you won’t be late!” Is making ADHD out to be something which is just a common real world experience. In doing so it makes a shit ton of people think they have ADHD when they don’t, and it makes it more difficult for people who actually do have ADHD to get appropriate treatment and diagnosis.
Unfortunately, a great deal of people have co-opted legitimate mental illness to essentially either 1. Have something to identify with or 2. Get out of real world responsibilities. “It’s not my fault I failed the test and didn’t turn in that report at work, I just have ADHD! The posts online talking about being nervous for midday appointments said so!”
They’re an actual victim, but they haven’t realized it yet.
They genuinely believe that these things that are torturous to experience are “normal,” and they’ve internalized the abuse they’ve received that these things are normal so hard that they’re offended other people are commisserating over how awful these experiences are, because it implies that they themselves are also not “normal.”
Pity them. They’re white-knuckling their symptoms and can’t even enjoy commisserating with others.
Sharing commonalities is fine. Sharing common experiences as they related to a mental diagnosis is fine. Saying “that ADHD feeling when you have a 3 PM appointment and check the clock 10 times to make sure you won’t be late!” Is making ADHD out to be something which is just a common real world experience. In doing so it makes a shit ton of people think they have ADHD when they don’t, and it makes it more difficult for people who actually do have ADHD to get appropriate treatment and diagnosis.
Unfortunately, a great deal of people have co-opted legitimate mental illness to essentially either 1. Have something to identify with or 2. Get out of real world responsibilities. “It’s not my fault I failed the test and didn’t turn in that report at work, I just have ADHD! The posts online talking about being nervous for midday appointments said so!”
You aren’t helping anyone here, you’re just acting like you know better than everyone else.
They’re an actual victim, but they haven’t realized it yet.
They genuinely believe that these things that are torturous to experience are “normal,” and they’ve internalized the abuse they’ve received that these things are normal so hard that they’re offended other people are commisserating over how awful these experiences are, because it implies that they themselves are also not “normal.”
Pity them. They’re white-knuckling their symptoms and can’t even enjoy commisserating with others.