The picture that made you click on this post was captured 2 weeks ago. 165lbs 5’8. I’m no longer obese, I haven’t been for months now, but I’m still stared up and down from other strangers who are trying ascertain whether I pose a threat or not.
I’m walking forward and not acknowledging you and yet you’re fiddling around with ur pockets or moving away from me. I could share more but people have a tendency to question what really happened in x experience, derailing the discussion entirely. I’m stuck in Vancouver for the foreseeable future and I’d appreciate it if you just answered the question.
I’m not interested in empty platitudes or comments unrelated to the topic at hand. “What can I change about my face to make the average vancouverite less scared of me”. That’s it. I’m not expecting anyone here to be an expert on anthropology but this is an (mostly, IDK ur OSINT but me personally idc anymore) anonymous forum. Say that I look tired and I’ll look for surgeons who can handle complex eyelid surgeries. Id appreciate candidness. Random assortment of photos I found within the last year. I can’t be half assed to remove identifying information anymore.
Wear light coloured button up shirts and blazers on top, light colored trousers or faded jeans down below. Sweaters with the button ups is double plus good. Throw in a tie and you’ll make racist old ladies swoon. If you look like a fashionable working nerd people will respond better. Carrying a travel mug is very disarming for racist old ladies. You aren’t about to rob someone while sipping earl grey. Wearing dark colours or athletic clothes or trendy, youthful stuff and people will make their shitty assumptions.
Unless you do the full Michael Jackson, a nose job won’t work. Racists gonna race. You have a naturally kind, handsome face for people who can see more than your skin pigments. Rhinoplasty would make you look weird to people who already aren’t intimidated by you but do nothing to make you less intimidating to the crowd who makes you feel shitty for existing. I come from a deeply religious, conservative, racist, white family. I have insight into the minds of these shitty people. Spend that money on therapy and a vacation.
I was gonna comment on headwear but this comment is full on accurate. My two cents is to skip the skullcap/beanie/toque and wear like a newsboy or driver’s cap with those collapsible ear covers that go around the back of the head on cold days. Racists won’t know what to do with that.
Nothing you do regarding plastic surgery will change people that are stupid. You’re a good looking young man, but some people are dumb. Part of this is your own perspective though. Learn to love yourself as you are and not only will you not be as affected by other’s reactions to you, but you’ll be less inclined to notice them at all (this isn’t a platitude, but a fact hard learned by an old man)