Thanks. I’m terrible about thinking this way. I always follow my curiosity and really only care about an abstract understanding any people that like to explore. When I’m the boss, no one works for me; they work with me and take on responsibility or I do it myself and get rid of them. I can do it all; not the best or the fastest, but I can do about anything if I really try. To me, social dynamics seem childish, but I also suck at things like emotional reinforcement and coercive sales. Most places I’ve worked, I wind up operating outside of any management structure, set my own hours, etc.
One of the big steps to becoming a boss who enables others is understanding that you can’t do it all yourself, and that your job is to help other people do more than you could yourself alone. I am learning that as I transition from being “the buck stops here guy“ to a manager
Not saying “sorry”, and instead saying “thank you for your patience”, will make me internally think “no, I wasn’t feeling patient at all”, and I’ll think you’re a condescending asshole and undermine you at every turn.
People need to learn how to apologize gracefully and keep moving.
What kind of personality is always aware of this kind of perceptive interaction, and what are their core thought functions?
it’s a simple as not taking a submissive or apologetic tone. Realizing you are a peer with the other party.
Also cutting out filler words and disfluencies common in casual conversation.
Thanks. I’m terrible about thinking this way. I always follow my curiosity and really only care about an abstract understanding any people that like to explore. When I’m the boss, no one works for me; they work with me and take on responsibility or I do it myself and get rid of them. I can do it all; not the best or the fastest, but I can do about anything if I really try. To me, social dynamics seem childish, but I also suck at things like emotional reinforcement and coercive sales. Most places I’ve worked, I wind up operating outside of any management structure, set my own hours, etc.
One of the big steps to becoming a boss who enables others is understanding that you can’t do it all yourself, and that your job is to help other people do more than you could yourself alone. I am learning that as I transition from being “the buck stops here guy“ to a manager
Not saying “sorry”, and instead saying “thank you for your patience”, will make me internally think “no, I wasn’t feeling patient at all”, and I’ll think you’re a condescending asshole and undermine you at every turn.
People need to learn how to apologize gracefully and keep moving.
Someone interested in controlling others… a boss.