We’ve transitioned our 1yo out of our bed and to their own cot. We had to co-sleep after they puked on their old cot and refused to sleep at all once it was cleaned. Every time we’ve gotten them used to the cot something messes it up like travelling etc. but it’s finally looking like something stable.

I was amazed the other night because it was the first time ever we didn’t need to hold a hand or pat them to sleep, I could just lay them down in bed and watched them drift off.

The sleep is a little better but still not sleeping through the night and also constantly sick from daycare so they keep waking up cause of the coughing. When they were with us it was a lot easier to put the pacifier back in and go back to sleep but now we have to get out of bed to send them back to sleep.

Then there’s also the night feeds… we’re still doing a 10:30pm bottle and another bottle anywhere from 3am to 7am, it all depends on how much they ate during the day. Which they’ve now decided they don’t like any of the food we make even though it’s exactly the same stuff that would be at daycare. Which then prolongs the cycle of not eating enough and needing night feeds and then not eating much because there was milk overnight. I feel like we have to cut the night feeds somehow but it feels really cruel to starve them when they’re used to it…

I just hope getting them to their own bed will be a positive turning point and we’ll actually be sleeping through the night soon. I know other people have it worse but everyone I talk to directly has babies that sleep from 8pm to 8am with no stirring and no bottle, it’s making me feel like I’m messing something up. Overall still feels like we’re taking positive steps though.

Thanks for reading the rant.

  • ladicius@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    everyone I talk to directly has babies that sleep from 8pm to 8am with no stirring and no bottle

    That is fantasy talk by those people.

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      4 months ago

      As a long term nanny and now a parent myself, I’ve had exactly ONE charge out of 22 + my own child who can sleep 8 hours with no bottle. He stirs but puts himself back to sleep silently and if you aren’t watching a video monitor, you’d have no idea that he had stirred.

      But if you ask The Mister about our own child, he’d swear our own kid sleeps twelve hours with no bottle and no stirring. That’s because THE MISTER sleeps twelve hours and wouldn’t hear a smoke alarm, much less the child stir. So I agree with you to consider the source and that it is very likely fantasy talk.

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      4 months ago

      It depends on what steps you’re willing to take. 1 yr olds can sleep for that long uninterrupted.

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      4 months ago

      I wouldn’t be sure all of them are. Our daughter (now almost 2 years old) is also a good sleeper and she tends to sleep from 9-10 PM to 7-8 AM with just a few backrubs and sips of water in between. Not something I hear from other parents for sure, but there are some really great sleeper babies out there.