I would say it’s more a matter of creating an appropriate external persona so that what other people see is your authentic self. An example of this is if you’re naturally reserved and quiet, most people would interpret that as disinterest or animosity. But if do you like the other person, you need to put on a bit of an act to communicate that.
I take the opposite approach. If I notice someone is more chatty than I am, I make a point to tell them upfront “hey, I’m usually pretty quiet, but I still enjoy conversations even if they’re a little one-sided”. It’s a good test of character - if they still have a problem with me after I communicated clearly, then we’re not compatible, and I don’t need to worry about them. But I have certainly had friends that would talk my ear off and I’d happily nod and offer small insights or facts, and it worked out. It’s more about finding the right people - instead of trying to become the right person.
I would say it’s more a matter of creating an appropriate external persona so that what other people see is your authentic self. An example of this is if you’re naturally reserved and quiet, most people would interpret that as disinterest or animosity. But if do you like the other person, you need to put on a bit of an act to communicate that.
I take the opposite approach. If I notice someone is more chatty than I am, I make a point to tell them upfront “hey, I’m usually pretty quiet, but I still enjoy conversations even if they’re a little one-sided”. It’s a good test of character - if they still have a problem with me after I communicated clearly, then we’re not compatible, and I don’t need to worry about them. But I have certainly had friends that would talk my ear off and I’d happily nod and offer small insights or facts, and it worked out. It’s more about finding the right people - instead of trying to become the right person.