I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven’t actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.
The shitty part is feeling like I’m betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can’t just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I’m just going to hide. I don’t want to put my family in danger, but I also can’t stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.
Don’t put if off is my advice. Imagine putting it off last Trump election and having so many years of dysphoria. I had friends who held off for years and they regretted it.
Hey, cis normative passing trans person here (in my case my long time partner has a phenotype preference and I chose him rather than physical transition) you are not betraying anybody. It is a hard road any of us walk and your decision, whatever it’s reason, is valid. We are going to need solidarity like never before and that doesn’t mean pointing fingers at ourselves or others and lamenting that our sacrifices don’t look the same. It means being kind to ourselves too. We are all going to need each other.
I literally just talked to a doctor about starting HRT yesterday, confident in a Harris win. I feel like such a fool. I haven’t actually started, just talked about it. My wife and I agree that waiting at least until this time next year is wise, depending on how bad things get.
The shitty part is feeling like I’m betraying all my trans brothers and sisters out there who can’t just put on cis-face, since there are medical records and public posts identifying them as not cis-normative, and I’m just going to hide. I don’t want to put my family in danger, but I also can’t stomach doing nothing as my people are also at risk.
Don’t put if off is my advice. Imagine putting it off last Trump election and having so many years of dysphoria. I had friends who held off for years and they regretted it.
Your life comes first every time. Do what you have to do to be safe. We love you and no one is upset at you for hiding for your own safety.
Hey, cis normative passing trans person here (in my case my long time partner has a phenotype preference and I chose him rather than physical transition) you are not betraying anybody. It is a hard road any of us walk and your decision, whatever it’s reason, is valid. We are going to need solidarity like never before and that doesn’t mean pointing fingers at ourselves or others and lamenting that our sacrifices don’t look the same. It means being kind to ourselves too. We are all going to need each other.