• underscores@lemmy.zip
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    6 hours ago

    This wasn’t a thing in Canada until COVID, we’ve also have a huge wave of immigration and a lot of immigrants think it’s chill to pretend you own public space.

    To me, it’s the biggest indicator you are a conceited asshole.

  • nesc@lemmy.cafe
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    1 day ago

    You’re left with an awkward decision, do you ask them to budge up? Or do you just accept defeat and stand up for the next 30 minutes?

    What’s awkward about this situation? Just ask them to move and sit there.

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          17 hours ago

          wave? i’d just dump it in their fucking lap and sit down

          it’s okay to sit on the edge rather than the window. i’d even say it’s okay to put your bag on the seat when there’s plenty of space for everyone. it’s not okay to put your bag on the seat when there are people standing. if your bag is on the seat, it’s on you to pay attention and move it when the level of available seating becomes insufficient

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    1 day ago

    There’s a free space by the window. But someone’s already sitting in the aisle seat, avoiding eye contact at all costs.You’re left with an awkward decision, do you ask them to budge up?

    It is not awkward at all. Tell him to move his backpack (if there is one) and sit there.

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      6 hours ago

      Stand really close facing him, with your bulge (male or female) at eye level, in silence, and wait.

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      19 hours ago

      If you don’t want someone to sit beside you, sit on the window seat then eagerly look at everyone walking past and pat the seat beside you. Nobody wants to sit beside that guy.

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        4 hours ago

        This works 98% of the time. When it doesn’t, oh boy! You’re in for an “interesting” conversation!

        Use at your own risk!

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        19 hours ago

        Or if you don’t want to do the eager look thing just sit there picking your nose and examining what you dredge out.

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      1 day ago

      I just move in and put my crotch in his face and then say “sorry” and people usually move the bag.

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        1 day ago

        Its actually a lack of them.

        “Hey, can you move your bag so I can have that seat?”

        Is a profound lack of give a damn about how uncomfortable I make other people. They know what they are doing, quietly signalling that they dont want anybody sitting there. Other people who do have social graces will stand around quietly staring daggers and silently judging, Im just gonna make this shit awkward for the both of us.

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          1 day ago

          I just have my bag on there because it’s more comfortable than having it between my legs.

          I mean, I also don’t want people sitting next to me, but the backpack is unrelated.

          But I also just remove it if I notice anyone making the slightest indication of wanting to sit there, provided the train is full enough that it seems unlikely for there to be any free double seats.

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            Youre making excuses for the exact behaviour the article is complaining about. Even youre “ill gladly move my bag” sentence is full of ifs and maybes. There are tons of people in this thread making it clear the behaviour upsets them, but they wont act on it by telling you to be civil.

            Stop making excuses and share the public space.

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              Sorry but I don’t give a fuck. Sitting with my bag between my legs is hella uncomfortable and I’m not dealing with that when there’s no reason to. 95% of the time the trains I’m on aren’t full enough for two people to need to sit next to each other. Literally the moment someone in the aisle slightly slows down I’ll move it on my lap for a bit in case they want to sit there if the opposite seat isnt just completely empty or I know that the train as a whole is.

              Do I like asking ppl to move their bag? Fuck no, I have social anxiety disorder, but it’s still not even remotely proportional to having my bag between my legs for no reason for 2 hours when there’s already not enough leg room.

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          1 day ago

          Yep, it’s the rules of the game.
          You just ask politely to move their bag, then passively offer to move their bag for them, then sling the bag onto the luggage rack and sit down.
          I’ve also been known to sit on someone’s lap when they refused to move their bag.

          (Obviously with the caveat of my tall privilege. It’s incredibly shit to ignore someone entirely and hope they go away)

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          I’m socialer than a motherfucker, and I would also immediately tell this person to move their bag. I think you may be confusing people with social graces and pushovers

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          They know what they are doing, quietly signalling that they dont want anybody sitting there.

          Why would I give a fuck what they want? They are not entitled to the public space.

        • guy_threepwood@lemmy.world
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          1 day ago

          Even easier, if you can get to the seat without asking them to move, just start to sit in it and the bag will be moved

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    2 days ago

    I edge because that empty space usually get me trapped by rank mofos who dont know hygeine. Wash you rank fuckers

    • sunglocto@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 day ago

      If this is such a problem for you, then you are not at all ready for any of the other problems that public transport can throw at you

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      1 day ago

      That’s public transport for you. You pay for one ticket, you get one seat; you don’t get a whole row to yourself just because you don’t like other people.

      Pay for first class if you want more space and a seat on your own.

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      1 day ago

      You’re getting downvoted, but as a woman I have been and have seen other women hemmed in by creepy men for sitting in the window seat. I’d rather be rude than at risk.