Do we just live and suffer and die?

  • niktemadur@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    The point is to give someone vulnerable a full life, with safety and warmth.
    From your perspective, time went by too fast; from their perspective, it was a long and peaceful lifetime, they were incredibly fortunate to have someone like you.

    Also, there is an implicit assumption we carry around that to be immortal is some sort of blessing or state to aspire to, while it may very well be that being mortal is itself the blessing.

    In my opinion, the highest tribute one can pay to a departed friend and companion is to again open one’s home to another vulnerable creature and make him/her family.

    Do it in your departed friend’s memory and honor. If you could communicate again with them, you would let them know this is part of their proud and gentle legacy, to reduce suffering on the world - “Look what you did, by being who and what you were for me in life, you opened the door for someone else when their turn came.”

    This is what I have done, and do not regret a minute of it.

  • zoostation@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Your cat had a good life and loved you and then died. There doesn’t have to be a point, there’s more good than suffering.

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        5 months ago

        The world does suck right now. All the more reason to find something like a cat or some other thing that makes you happy to help ignore all the bullshit.

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            5 months ago

            I’d ask to switch with you, except I know very well that anyone’s life can be much more complicated than it seems on the surface, and happiness does not automatically come from any of that. Therapy doesn’t help everyone be happier, but it’s something worth trying or trying again.

  • originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com
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    5 months ago

    ive had to say goodby to a few pet friends now. i dont regret having my pet friends.

    we got to enjoy each others company, and honestly the pet gets the better end of this deal if their people are sound.

    • lowleveldata@programming.devOP
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      5 months ago

      the pet gets the better end

      The one comforting thing is that my cat probably doesn’t care about leaving as much as I do. He loves sleeping anyway

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        5 months ago

        were all ships passing in the night. a few get to know each other before moving on.

        i just got my first dog. i hate dogs. i now only hate all other dogs. and this dog… well, its already bothering me i will have to say goodbye.

        but it reminds me of that south park episode .

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          5 months ago

          Butters is too damn pure for South Park (most of the time). He’s probably my favorite side character.

  • TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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    5 months ago

    Yeah pretty much. What you do in the meantime is up to you.

    Pets are particularly weird because we get them knowing damn well we will outlive them. I view it as giving the little babies as close to a perfect life, and as comfortable a passing as pawssible.

  • xmunk@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    The universe exists and is beautiful. We exist to appreciate and explore that beauty. It sounds like you had wonderful experiences with your cat and both you and your cat benefitted from your shared time. It’s important to remember that getting that time and those memories were worth the pain of parting.

  • nick@midwest.social
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    5 months ago

    It hurts. I had to put my cat of 18 years down last year and it hurt for a long while. But I wouldn’t trade having her as my friend; the end was sad and rough, but I made sure she had as good of a life as I could give her the entire time she was with me. We can’t do much better than that for our furry friends.

    Hang in there friend, it does get better with time.

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      5 months ago

      18-years is damned rough OP. Jesus, I feel for you. But 18-years is a hella life for a cat, so good job fellow human. You did your part. Can’t say if I’ll ever have a relationship that long, but my kids are young, who knows!

    • NotJustForMe@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      We are approaching exaxtly this. Got her as a palm-sized mini-furball 17 years ago. A true lap-cat, always on top of us. It won’t be much longer; I am absolutely not looking forward to that day. Well, she will be the most cared for elderly cat in the region. That’s about all we can do. It’s insane how a mostly asleep tiny creature that never learns anything can affect one’s life.

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    5 months ago

    You sound like an attentive cat carer. Cat was lucky to have you. The point of all this is different for everyone, but cats are a big part of the point for me. Maybe for you, you can give more cats a good life as well. When you’re ready of course, you may need time to grieve.

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    5 months ago

    We live for no other reason than that we can. Against all odds, in a universe that wasn’t trying to make us alive, we became more than the sum of our elements that compose us: to be the thinking and thriving things that we are - for as long as we are. Life itself is an act of defiance against the universe, but ultimately playing by it’s rules with the understanding that we can only do so for a finite amount of time.

    Your cat too was one of those defiant and emergent souls that used the universe as it’s playground full of strangers, bullies, and friends alike. Never forget that which it did not know: that its time was short but miraculous in the grand scheme of a universe borne of chaos but twinkling with unexpected life.

    • june@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      It’s worth it.

      I lost my girl 2 days ago, the world feels like it’s ended and I can hardly breath.

      But it’s worth it. I’d do it all over again. I will do it all over again once the wound is healed. Because it’s worth every ounce of the pain.

  • I am so, so sorry for your loss. I understand how you feel, and I’m sorry that I have no words that can help. Nothing can replace them.

    We do a little ritual for ours on the Day of the Dead; I don’t know if it helps. I guess it makes me feel a little better the rest of the year, setting time aside to remember the good times.

    I’m sorry.

  • Gabu@lemmy.ml
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    5 months ago

    Do we just live and suffer and die?

    Largely, yes. As far as we know, there’s no grand purpose nor reason of being. We’re all just floundering about, trying to answer the fundamental questions of existence for ourselves. There may be an objective answer, however, which is why I do what I can to push humankind in the direction I believe is most likely to result in that discovery - even though my significance is only comparable to that of an ant.

    Regarding your loss, specifically, I was in a very similar boat ~12 years ago. Honestly considered just riding into the sunset in search of Bob Ross, at the time. Today, I’m extremely glad to have stuck around to raise another cat who loves me beyond anything I ever thought comprehensible. In short, when life as a whole sucks, there’s respite in the moment. When the moment sucks, take respite in the whole of life’s experiences.

  • boatsnhos931@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Go get a kitten from the pound and quit being so dramatic. That cat would have eaten your face off if you died. I love animals but you guys are on an unhealthy level.