This kind of thing is seriously the best that life gets. Being able to recognize those moments and appreciate them is one of the best skills somebody can obtain. Mindfulness meditation and stoic philosophy have helped me immensely in being able to appreciate these types of situations for the real value that they have.
As a father of a toddler, I try to appreciate every day and not take these types of moments for granted.
I’m very mindful of the fact that this time I’m living in right now is the period of my life that I’ll revisit in my memories on repeat when I’m an old man.
What wise réalisation, wow… I hope it bears much nostalgic fruit for you to enjoy in your golden years.
I’ve been eating my past a bit too much lately. Got to remember to do like you, and make something for the future to eat too
Not long enough.
Sigh.
I spent my childhood sitting in the back of a car whilst my mum and her best mate would moan about men every night, or following them around to see if they were in the pub getting pissed so she could go and throw drinks at him.
One day we came home as we were being burgled, probably my people my step dad knew.
I would have taken ballet and ice cream, even as a dude.
My ancestors had a phrase that has become the popularized saying “today is a good day to die”
Hokahey
Crazyhorse being the badass he was, would yell it when charging into battle.
It’s not really meant as “time to die” but more of I am ready! I am brave. I am strong. I love my family and they love me. If today is the day, so be it. I am ready for judgement!
This dad is practicing what it means.
That’s awesome. Sounds like your lineage is Klingon.
The Lakota were the badasses that forced the US Army to surrender. The Dakota areas would be a much different place if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.
So the Klingons using that phrase has always been a lovely thing
if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.
They should’ve tried more dysentery. Worked on me.
Also, small rivers that need fording.
Every Wednesday I take my daughter to scouts. After scouts we take an unnecessarily long way home, playing music we like at each other and chatting. It’s a highlight of my week too.
My youngest and I have been on our own since she was 8 months old. She’s now 11. She has two older siblings and 4 nieces and nephews. She went to spend last summer with her sister and family and asked to stay through the next summer. That was July 16th 2023. Hardest decision I’ve made yet. But I couldn’t find a reason to say no that wasn’t selfish or self serving. She needed this time. Her mother hasn’t been in her life and her 27 year old sister is the “mother figure” she clung to.
She will be home in a few weeks.
It’s the moments like these I miss the most. Watching them in real-time discover themselves.
Anyway, y’all just take every fucking chance you get to sit still in moments like these. Enjoy them.
This hit hard.
Anyway, y’all just take every fucking chance you get to sit still in moments like these. Enjoy them
Hear hear!
I miss those days.
But children must become teenagers.
Nasty, ignorant, disrespectful teenagers.
Otherwise, we’d never let them leave and become adults.
Fun to joke about but activities with my teens are still my highlights. They don’t have to be the stereotype.
The real problem is their increasing absences, their approaching independence. It’s really frustrating fostering their independence, pulling back from taking care of them, dreading their impending “graduation” into adulthood.
On the other hand at my performance review, my manager spent most of the time encouraging to get back into dating now that kids are gradually leaving, trying to give me tips and encouragement, so I got that going for me
You’re right.
I’ve got a pretty wide spread on my kids (step & bio). One in college, 3 teens and a ten year old.
Every phase has its ups and downs. Some days I wish the teenagers wanted to involve us more, and other days I wish the ten year old would just give me some space! 😂
He doesn’t talk back to her? That’s awkward. “Remember when dad would take me for ice cream and not say anything to me while he messes with the radio?”
Little girls often like to talk. A lot. Kids in general at specific ages have a lot to say. Listening skills as an adult in this situation are important. You want them to feel comfortable just jabbering at you.
It’s not just kids, most adults would talk this much too, and probably feel a lot better for it, if they hadn’t had it knocked out of them and had someone they trust to talk to.
Aren’t you supposed to be modeling conversational conventions so they don’t annoy other people with incessant chatter? Some people never seem to be quiet ever and probably needed to learn to let other people be involved in their one-sided monologues.
No, you demonstrate love and unconditional acceptance and support. Today they’re babbling on about something that happened at ballet, tomorrow they trust you enough to talk about their relationships and teachers and the bully at school.
Kids have enough time in their day to learn social convention - they also just need a safe environment to unpack everything with their parents.
I dont know what age the kid is, but i know lots of kids that just love talking like a never ending waterfall. Shes probably telling him every single detail of what happened during ballet class like it is a shakespeare play. And if you love your kids then you wanna hear that.
Almost definitely this. “…and I went over to the teacher and asked if we could dance to Let It Snow, but Becky said she didn’t like that song, so but then Jenny came over and said she did, so the teacher asked everyone who liked it to raise their hands and almost everyone did so she put it on and we got to dance to it! Oh, and then, Becky even got excited about it part way through and I think she likes it now, too, so the teacher said we can listen to it again next week! But Tanya’s mom came to pick her up early because she had to go to the dentist, so she missed the best part, and then…”
This is exactly what i had in mind. Thank you for adding to my comment :)
Having an engineer for a father, yes, I remember. It always ended with “Car Talk.” /s
“DON’T DRIVE LIKE MY BROTHA”
Kids are honestly a vomitorium, though. They want to be listened to. IMO, the time for your input is when they ask for it, which is still often. The generational gap makes things just as awkward as not speaking.
Kids are an entrance or exit passage in an ancient Roman amphitheatre or theatre?
yes, they go in and come out of the same place
But if they are the passage, then you’d be entering and exiting children, and that just sounds… wrong.
Metaphorically, yes. They let a lot of things out. That’s why it’s called that. It means ""to spew forth. " (that’s in your link)
People used to think it was a place where people vomited.
It means ""to spew forth. "
Aactually, it doesn’t, but good of you to actually open the link and have a butcher’s. “Vomere” means “to spew forth”. “Vomitorium” is “vomere” + -“orium”, meaning “place of.”
The only time that exists is the present. Enjoy it!
Don’t live in the past or the future, they existed and they will exist, but they don’t exist. Only the present does.
Yooo… ever since having my first child, my daughter, it feels like time is fkin flying. Every single day at work I’m thinking to myself… I want to be home with my family, I need to find a way out of wage slavery.
After my son was born I would get up in the morning, usually before he and wife were awake, go to work. When I got home from work I would be lucky to see him for an hour before my wife put him to bed. Hardly ever saw him.
Then the pandemic happened, he just turned two at the time. I was then told to work from home. It was brilliant. I got to spend so much time with my son. I still work from home now but he’s at school these days.
The pandemic was not kind to a lot of people but for me personally I have great memories because of it.
Damn, this is about the same scenario with me. But after being laid off in my last role, which was remote, I got stuck into a role where I have to be on-site. I’m still applying to remote roles, I can’t settle for on-site work especially when 90% of my work can all be done through PC/Internet access.
Similar for me. I got let go from a good job right before the pandemic. Got some unemployment, then it kept getting extended because of the pandemic.
Got to spend everyday with my boy, and used the time to start my own business and things have never been better. It starts ripping by fast, though.
I always think, there was a time when my dad picked lifted me up and neither of us knew it was for the last time.
Sometimes I don’t want to do kid stuff, don’t have the energy or whatever. I try to picture myself 80 years old, gone back in time for one day with my young family, always give me the energy to keep it up.
Yeah that’s exactly it. Sometimes I don’t want to do family stuff. My wife plans things like going to the beach which I really don’t like but I keep thinking about the memories both me and my son will get. My dad hardly did anything with me, I want to make sure I’m giving my son good memories.
As a childless Millennial, nothing sounds weirder to me than to hear someone speak like a Zoomer and mention having a child in the same sentence. In my eyes, y’all are still teenagers.
I’m a millennial… and I’m still young in mind. Adulting is hard.
Adulting is hard 😑 didn’t exactly help I emigrated to my spouse’s home country, we had our child, I (finally) got my career properly going, and we bought a house, all in a span of two years. But, even without all that, adulting would be a lot. Up until I started actually feeling like an adult, I wanna say somewhere in my 30s, it usually seemed like adults had their shit together. Either life used to be somewhat easier, or part of adulting is getting really good at pretending you have your shit together…
Well done, OP, for realizing it in the moment!
It’s actually pretty easy. Look around you and be grateful for what you have and stop thinking about all the things you don’t have.
If you’re waking up on a rainy Monday and not hating your life, you’re doing pretty well.
How about waking up early on a rainy Monday for a conference call? But then the whole week is rescued by the coworker in India talk about the heat and lack of rain, and how late it is after the end of their workday
I love rainy Mondays
That’s what I do, look out the window through the rain to watch my brand new Brabus G-Wagon
And if you work hard, someday you’ll be able to afford a really nice car.
Let me guess, you’re thinking about a big bad truck.
wooosh
Yeah you were
It’s choir and a local sub shop for my me and my daughter.
Also, our constant argument about who is better, Alastor or Vox.
Whoever she says is better, is better.
Trust me on this one, the ROI is unmatched.
Too late. T-shirts already ordered.
When will it fit her?
A lot of people have overlooked great things because they were waiting for something better to come along.
Some of my (our) favourite moments are the time we’re the most lost.
Unplanned.
How dare you know my life better than I
I dare all!
Hi Daryl
That’s a terrible ‘dad joke.’ Surely you can’t be serious.
Terrible means great in the land of the dad
This is why we can’t have nice things.
I’m not serious, I eat cereals
Did you know that white people have had a huge impact on European history?
I am serious and don’t call me Shirely.
It took 19 hours for someone to come up with the proper response.
We live in an ocean of ignorant heathers.
{i was going to write ‘heathens’ but I like the typo better]
Be careful of insulting the Heathers. They are one the most powerful cliques on Lemmy.
For me and my daughter, it was 6am Wawa breakfasts in the car while waiting for her chess club to start It was 16 years ago and I’d go back again in a heartbeat
I hate to be that guy but who lets their kid (or even adults) eat ice cream in the car? This is a recipe for disaster.
